What Part of You Swiped Right?
- kaurcoachinggroup
- Jul 31
- 2 min read
A Soft Reckoning with Attraction, Patterns, and Inner Choice
You swore this time would be different. And yet… your body leans toward the same kind of almost-love.
You’re wiser now. More intentional. You’ve got the lists—red flags, dealbreakers, the kind of love you actually deserve.
But here you are again. That same dizzying push-pull. The spark that fizzles too soon. The quiet ache of how did I end up here—again?
What if it wasn’t all of you choosing?
What if it was a voice—the younger you, the guarded you, the one still whispering, Prove you’re worthy—steering the ship?
We don’t show up to love as blank slates. We arrive with a whole cast inside us: The hopeless romantic. The skeptic. The people-pleaser. The rebel.
They’re the first to react—flirting, analyzing, bracing, longing. They remember old love like muscle memory. And they’re excellent at keeping you safe… even when their version of "safe" feels like the same old story.
Attraction isn’t just chemistry. It’s your nervous system whispering, I know this.
You might call it a "type." But really, it’s a part of you asking, Can it be different this time?
You think you’re drawn to confidence. But maybe it’s just armor, polished smooth. Or stability feels… flat—not because it is— but because your system hasn’t yet learned that calm isn’t boredom.
You call it a pattern. But what if it’s a protector? One that’s been choosing for you, clinging to what’s familiar because unfamiliar love—even the good kind—feels like uncharted waters.
Here’s the thing: You don’t need to "fix" your voices. Or shame your cravings. Or shut down desire.
You just need to pause. To lean in. To ask, next time your pulse jumps or your walls go up:
Who’s choosing right now? What’s this moment protecting me from? Is this really my "yes"—or an old story wearing fresh skin?
Having these voices isn’t a flaw. It’s how we’re wired.
But the magic starts when you realize: Not every pull toward someone is a call from your wholeness. Sometimes, it’s an echo.
And when you can tell the difference? That’s when you choose differently. Not from hunger. Not from fear. But from the quiet, unshakable knowing of who you are— and the love that won’t ask you to abandon yourself this time.
Ready to choose differently?
Inside The Selection Room™, we don’t chase chemistry.We get curious about the cast inside you—the ones pulling you toward love, and the ones pulling you away.No more guessing. No more spirals. Just clarity, compassion, and Self-led choice.
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